What do you do when you’ve met someone you really like and want to see again, but - as they say on Facebook – ‘it’s complicated’? And you don’t know what they’re thinking or feeling, so you don’t know whether that’s what they want or not. And how would it be if you suggested something, and it’s not what they want, and then they have to find ways of turning you down? But maybe they’re feeling the same too, and they don’t want to say anything for the same reasons. So nobody ends up saying anything. The end of a beautiful friendship.
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la_spice
- Monday, May. 19, 2008 @ 07:53:59
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Melinda_blog
- Tuesday, May. 20, 2008 @ 08:16:44
Of course hypothetical - how could you ask???
Don't want to close any doors. don't want to move on just yet, not while it's still fun. -
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suzeemoon
- http://suzeemoon.friendpages.com/
- Monday, May. 19, 2008 @ 23:17:14
Do you want 'more' more than you want the friendship if 'more' isn't on offer? If so you could risk going for it and say something. if not continue at friendship level, keep reading and hoping I guess....
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Melinda_blog
- Tuesday, May. 20, 2008 @ 08:09:40
Did say it was hypothetical
I don't know what I want - well, not realistically anyway. don't we always have to tailor our aspirations to what is achievable?
Just to keep playing the game for now, i think-
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suzeemoon
- http://suzeemoon.friendpages.com/
- Tuesday, May. 20, 2008 @ 11:48:58
Whoops! Forgot the hypothetical bit!
Do you think one wants 'more' more than one wants the friendship if 'more' isn't on offer? If so one could risk going for it and say something. if not one could continue at friendship level, keep reading and hoping I guess....
Still bl**dy difficult though!
I guess some of us (me included) tailor our aspirations, but I don't think everybody does. Not sure which is best, though.
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Melinda_blog
- Tuesday, May. 20, 2008 @ 21:45:21
I think friendship is all that is on offer in this particular hypothetical scenario, but then friendship is probably what I need - or rather, what the heroine of this short story I'm trying to write needs
As far as aspirations go, even when i tailor them, they still seem to be constantly disappointed. Some people have tried to encourage me to set my sights higher, but what would be the point? I dunno. I give up. -
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kaimi0achava
- Sunday, May. 25, 2008 @ 00:52:28
Dont settle for second best.. hypothetically speaking.
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Melinda_blog
- Sunday, May. 25, 2008 @ 09:00:09
Second best is the story of my life.
Sometimes you have to have to decide whether to settle for what you can get, or end up with nothing.
Non-hypothetically speaking. -
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Hypothetical????
If it were me I'd keep the lines of communication open and see what happened. I'd also try to get the other person's take on the first date. If it turned out to be a one-way thing I'd move on.